Is it true that anger can be managed?
Exactly, I believe that any problem on this earth has a solution. And hence the problem of anger can be managed, it has a solution too.
Is there any connection or relationship between career and anger?
Basically career is a combination of mind, heart & time. So, if because of anger if we distract our mind and heart it will definitely affect our career. If we have to make our good career then we have to peacefully use our mind. And we are able to do so we can achieve successfully whatever we want.
How can one manage anger?
What I believe that anger can be managed by postmortem analysis. In postmortem analysis first of all there is anger and then one gets shift to silence. It will definitely cause disturbance either in heart or in brain. The chemical reactions will take place in our body as the feeling of anger has already been aroused.
In postmortem analysis once anger is created either we take it on our own or take out it externally by shouting at others. Ultimately this anger will have a bad impact on both on our body or on others with whom we get angry. This is what happens in postmortem analysis. I believe that if we have to see the real analysis for it then first of all we have to train our mind because we have two things:
First we have to check, who are we slave or master. If we are master, then we can train our mind, made it realize that I’m your owner, I will give you instructions, and you will not give me instructions.
Also apart from it if we think to control external conditions and circumstances then we won’t be able to manage our anger because we can’t control actions of other people.
How control and manage inner anger?
Actually it is a fact that it can never be guaranteed that anger can be totally omitted from any person’s personality. Only thing that can be done is that we have to train our self and have to keep telling our self that we are a very powerful person, you are not a body, you are a soul, we have to aware our self about self only, in spite of changing circumstances we have to get connected with happiness, train our mind and start feeling that we are beyond the body then I think slowly and gradually we can make our self powerful through mind and follow the path which ultimately leads to success.
Are there certain circumstances where anger is a requisite reaction?
I think anger is both good and bad. Actually it depends on situation. To explain it, if the anger is sponsored by our thoughts i.e. you got angry according to the situation on somebody who is not listening to you and you show anger to train that person then the anger is right. On the other hand, if the anger is not sponsored and it is not at all related to any mind activity and its intention is also not clear, then such anger is harmful.
Can we control what to speak or what not when we are angry?
We have to adopt a policy of “seeking forgiveness” and “forgiving people”. Such a habit actually completes a man and relaxes soul. If we have been very angry and so shouted on somebody, then we should politely apologize to that person. Slowly and gradually our mind gets trained with such attitude and we start doing even unconsciously.
This is a good practice. And if we practice it and keep patience before reacting we can control anger. In reality people escape from apologizing and follow wrong path.
How anger and irritation can be stopped from hampering career?
One’s behaviour and personality can actually control anger. But for that one has to show genuine interest and analyze that how worse impact is caused on us due to anger, how much energy is lost because of anger, performance and achievement are badly affected. We have to understand the cause and effect relationship and make our self realize what is actually important for us then giving anger its right place. Youth knowing their powers can channelize them in right direction.
Some tips with which anger can be managed and personality can be enhanced?
The people to whom you show gratitude like parents, teachers, teachers, neighbour, friends etc. you can never be angry with them. Develop the habit of showing gratitude by keeping “Thank you” in your words and action. All this makes you happy and angry with anybody.
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